self-love

Self Love – The Ultimate Style Essential

Self Love


Before you put on your makeup, and your amazing outfit. Do a double check and make sure you’re wearing the most important style essential of all. Self Love.

Sometimes we get so caught up with how we look on the outside that we completely and totally neglect the most important parts of ourselves. After all, it’s the inside that counts! And I know that sounds extremely cliché, but at the end of the day you know it’s true.

When I first created the self love pact, it was really something for me. I didn’t feel as happy and as joyous as I once felt. I looked great on the outside; but I faked my smile like so many of us do. I put on my fancy outfit. I beat my face to the gawds! I had my hair on fleek. But inside I knew I was missing something.

I wasn’t happy with my surroundings. I wasn’t happy about a lot of things. It happens to the best of us. Don’t get me wrong, I was extremely thankful for life. And truly things could have been much worse. I mean there are people dying every day. And I had life. That was more than enough to be thankful for.

Yet I looked at my shortcomings, my “failures”. The lack of support I felt I had. The scrutiny I felt I sometimes faced. I noticed everything I did wrong. What I could have done better and everything that I didn’t have. I was so focused on lack. And that was the worst thing of all.

I still loved myself. I still valued myself. I just wasn’t happy. I was so busy critiquing every little thing that I did, that I forgot to appreciate myself the way I once had. I’ve always been hard on myself, but 2014 was a year where I personally faced a great deal of hurt and a lot of struggle. So I decided in 2015, I had to do better.

I looked at my businesses, I looked at my motives. I looked at the world around me and I noticed something was missing. I asked myself what the world needs more of. And like the popular song it rang in my head “what the world needs now, is love”. Ok great, now that that’s established. How can the world get more love? And that’s where it really struck me, by loving themselves.

It’s so true when you think about it. How can we love anyone else if we barely love ourselves? It’s impossible. So that’s where I began to think and ask myself what are 4 key steps to help me and others love ourselves and the people around us more. Because ultimately self love is the first step in giving this world what it needs most.

A whole entire year has passed since I first created the self love pact. And I’m super excited to take this journey again starting February 1, 2016. I hope you’ll join me! Best of all, it’s free! Sign up, and grab your free workbook from the StyleBar.

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